Saying "Goodbye" to my First Love.....my 1968 AMC Ambassador

Before anyone who knows me gets worried, my lovely wife Rose is doing well and we are still happily married, "whew!"

The "first love" that I am writing about is not a woman, it is a car, the very first car that I ever owned. I have been sentimentally and some would say foolishly hanging onto her for the past 20 years or so, ever since the poor thing was unceremoniously dumped off (by me) at my parents acreage like so much scrap.

Scarlet (that's her name) came into my life on a bright sunny summer day when I was thirteen years old and it was love at first sight! I hadn't really discovered girls yet so a well turned ankle held considerably less fascination for me than did a red bucket seat with a center console and a 343 cubic inch, high compression V8 engine with a 4 barrel carb!

Scarlet and I in 1982, both of us in our prime!

So the girls in my old neighborhood of Goldbar in South Edmonton swallowed their disappointment at my distracted fascination with Scarlet and went on about their lives: a little discouraged maybe that the cute blonde fellow that lived on their block was temporarily off the market.

This is me around the time "Scarlet first became one of the family

For a 13 year old that was accustomed to his dads big 4 door Ramblers, the new 2 door, 1968 Ambassador with it's snazzy 2-tone red and white paint job seemed to be a pretty sexy, exciting mode of transportation!

Gold Bar was a very sedate suburban neighborhood in those days and the Petry household was probably about the weirdest and wildest bunch on that particular block. Between my dad "Ronnie" my mom "Bernie" and my older sisters Cheryl and Chris along with my fuzzy headed older brother "Terrible" (Terry) we all at one time or another gave our neighbors fits.

This was in the early seventies of course so a lot of people were sort of going through the whole "turn on, tune in and drop out" groovy psychedelic phase and the Petry household was not immune. Heady times, what with the moon landing a few years earlier (if you believe it was real!) and the 1972 win over the Soviets in the "Summit Series" Canada vs our arch nemesis, team USSR. Who can forget the last game in Moscow with the Canadian team coming from behind and Paul Henderson scoring the final series winning goal with 34 seconds left! Go Canada!

Final game 1972 Summit Series in Moscow

So for the next few years, Scarlet was a part of the Petry family and I think it was mostly my mom who drove her and of course when I was finally old enough to drive when I was in grade 11 it was mostly the red rocket that I drove. For me there was a very real emotional attachment to the car that I learned to drive in and so when a friend of my dads smashed up the front end one day, I was more than a little bit sad.

Thankfully it all turned out okay when my parents decided to give their smashed up car to me and all I needed to do was find a way to fix her up and get her back on the road. With help from my dad and his buddy "Rolly" a mechanic who worked at my dad's service station "The Saratoga" a Pacific 66 truck stop in South Edmonton we soon had her back on the road.

Of course as soon as that was accomplished my new priority was getting a great stereo system installed. In those days that meant a cassette tape player and I bucked out for a good Pioneer system that rattled a few eardrums as Scarlet cruised down the street. Ah those were the days, faux sheepskin seat covers, Appliance chrome mag wheels on "slicks" (extra wide tires with almost no tread) a leather wrapped steering wheel and Steppenwolfs, "Born to be Wild" blasting from the stereo! Sweet!

But life goes on and Scarlet being a product of the North American auto industry of the 1960's had a few reliability and utility issues and eventually I decided to park her for the duration or at least until I could afford to really do her up nice.

In the mean time I had met Rose, who I might add was never jealous of Scarlet, seeming to understand our complicated relationship. She very kindly made room for "the other woman" in my life and seemed to develop an attachment of her own to my baby.

Scarlet as she looked sitting forlornly on our driveway (for 10 long years)

The cockpit, with some of my embelishments

Kait and Lola say goodbye to Scarlet

Today's me, holding the picture of Scarlet and I taken by Rose in 1982

Speaking of babies, along came Kait and we decided that what we needed was a more reliable, modern car and Scarlet retired to my parents acreage in the Rochester area south of Athabasca and there she remained until my parents sold the place and I had Scarlet delivered to my driveway.

I wish that my kids, Kait and April had been able to go for a ride in Scarlet and had a chance to get to know her a bit but I just never had the perfect combination of money, time and inclination to rejuvenate her once again, oh well.

So after having her sitting on my driveway for the past 10 years or so, I finally gave in to the whispered words in my ear, "sell Scarlet, sell Scarlet" and I did it, I sold her down the river....or hopefully I sold her to a better home where she has at least a chance of being restored to her former glory and once again classing up the streets of Edmonton.

Goodbye Scarlet.....thanks for all the memories!

In Pursuit of Excellence (In Photography)

"You don't make a photograph just with a camera. You bring to the act of photography all the pictures you have seen, the books that you have read, the music you have heard and the people you have loved.
-Ansel Adams

Photography can be art, but strangely it is also sometimes nothing more than personal record keeping, what we might term a snapshot. Often we just want to record a moment or occasion in our lives without any attempt at creating anything more and that's okay of course, being a perfectly legitimate use of photographic technology. 

The vast majority of photographs taken on any given day are exactly that and no more, a photographic record destined for Facebook or Instagram, possibly to be "shared" or "liked" by members of the recorder's inner circle, their "friends".

But the potential, ahhh, the potential of the medium is so very vast these days, it's a bit mind blowing, that is to say, EXTREMELY INTIMIDATING!

Every time I start to think I'm making some progress towards transitioning some of my work from digital record keeping to creating art, I come across someone else's photographs that very quickly illustrate just how far I have to go. Unfortunately (or fortunately, depending on the perspective) photographic technology is advancing incredibly rapidly and as one technique or technology is mastered or at least partially understood, something new becomes possible. It's quite the challenge to keep up!    

I think the best thing I ever did to help my photography skills move forward was to join a photography club. If I am honest with myself I have to admit that I am guilty of being a bit of a lazy photographer (in the past). These days I am trying very hard to learn better habits and skills and to push, pull or drag my photography to a higher level.

When I first joined the St. Albert Photography Club http://www.stalbertphotoclub.com/
I was a little bit intimidated (and still am) by the skills of some of the members. Most of the members are not professional photographers, but rather they are for the most part, talented, passionate amateurs who love to learn and share their work with others.

Part of the process of a photography club is the submissions night that takes place every month during the club season. On that special night, members bring printed images, (as large as they can afford to print) up to the maximum size of 11" x 14" unframed but in a simple mat, to pit against the work of other club members.

The other way of entering is the digital submissions category and that is how I first entered the fray in an effort to determine if my images made the cut, if they would stand up to the critiquing of the other members of the club. At first I was regularly disappointed by the response to my submissions and in hind sight I see now that I often submitted badly chosen images, it was quite a revelation. 

A Non-winner from the "Country Roads" submissions theme.

It took quite a while to break into the winners circle and that only happened by accident.

When friends used some of my images in their home, they decided to re-print one of them in a larger size (because they liked it so much, wahoo!) and I asked for the old one printed at 11"x14" which was exactly the right size for submissions night.

My first winning image

I submitted it in the open category in October of 2013 and won first place, a very heady feeling let me tell you! That win ignited my renewed interest (my photo-mojo) and spurred me on to print more images, take more photos and much more carefully shoot, select and enter the various categories.

It's a lot of work planning and executing creative entries for themes such as: weathered wood, opposites, alone in a crowd, broken, fog/smoke or country roads. I've noticed though that it's good to be challenged, it's good to have stiff competition that consistently forces you to submit your best work for even a hope of having your images placing well. 

All of last season I was mentally chasing one particular individual who is consistently entering absolutely great images, technically perfect, exciting, creative and well crafted art. There are lot's of great photographers in the club, but this guy consistently submits excellent work and he makes every month even more of a challenge.

I love this one and expected it to do well......what can I say, it didn't even place but I still love it!

I called this post "In Pursuit of Excellence" because I wanted to make a point about how this kind of a challenge can be such a motivator to up your game, to push you and motivate you to spend more time thinking and creating something beautiful or meaningful that is well beyond what we might create on our own, without outside influence and a challenging environment.

You might believe that art is subjective and of course you are right, but until you have had a selection of your work critiqued by your peers (and betters) and you have truly compared your best to the best that is out there, it is very easy to convince yourself that your work is good or even great and leave it at that. 

After all, it's mine and I'm awesome, at least that's what my mom used to tell me and she should know!

A Marriage Blessing

I've been to many weddings before, including my own and I must say that the day that Rose and I got married is about the closest emotional parallel to my daughters recent wedding. Of course when your daughter gets married: emotionally, physically and financially you are bound to be heavily involved!

It started for me years ago when Kait and I (and sometimes Rose and/or April) would sit  down together and watch "Say Yes to the Dress". That's why when the time finally arrived to pick a wedding dress for Kait, I wanted to be involved. I figured I had earned it after watching dozens, or perhaps hundreds (thousands?) of wedding shows over the years.

So I was there for some, but not all of the appointments and eventually, Kait and I picked up the dress together and I was entrusted with hanging it in my "studio" and keeping it safe until the wedding. I must say that I enjoyed the process, spending time with my wife and daughters and really getting into the part of the cost conscious father of the bride.

She Said "Yes" to the dress!

Just for fun, I dived into the role. "Yes it's lovely....but how much does it cost?" 

Of course there were other aspects of the wedding to plan and when the kids announced that they were planning to have the ceremony at Nick's parents "farm" (3 acres just off of the Manning Freeway) we were excited to see it. Kait had mentioned over and over (and over) about the cute little red barn on the property that she envisioned the ceremony taking place in front of.

When we went to see it, I immediately saw that there was an even better place on the property to hold the ceremony and Rose agreed when I pointed it out to her. (Since that day, there has been some historical revision going on and now it seems everyone involved has stepped forward to take the credit for suggesting that the ceremony take place where it eventually did.)

 The truth however is that it was I who first actually said the fateful words, "let's do it over there" in the lovely spot between two rows of towering, leafy green shade trees that we later began calling, "cathedral grove."

Of course, the problem at that point was deciding how to approach Kait and Nick with our idea, (yes you guessed it, like most good things in my life, the idea was a product of a congenial collaboration between Rose and myself).

Couples planning a wedding can be notoriously difficult to influence without causing undue stress and tension so we gave the matter of how to broach the subject careful thought before spontaneously blurting out our idea at the first opportunity.

Surprisingly, it was quickly decided that "Cathedral Grove" was indeed the ideal spot and so it proved to be, absolutely gorgeous and since the wedding day turned out to be hot and sunny (+29) the shade was wonderful.

It was a beautiful day and everything went perfectly, just a few little hiccups to keep the stress level up such as being short one cable for the wireless mic for the officiant, (Nicks Aunt) but an emergency delivery by the father of one of the groomsmen quickly solved that, whew! 

The ceremony was only slightly delayed and thanks to our intrepid wedding planners Evy and Pam who did everything from setting up chairs to arranging various pretty decorations, everything else went smoothly.

No-one was brained during the smashing of the pinatas, the porta-potty didn't fall over and there was very little traffic on the road during the ceremony, all good things!

Kait, Nick and the "dog of honour" Lola

One of my responsibilities (self imposed) was to say a blessing over the marriage during the ceremony and I managed to get through it with a minimum of waterworks. It proved to be a very emotional ceremony with a lot of sniffles among the audience, and the participants. (Nick developed a curious pollen allergy that lasted the length of the ceremony) 

I enjoyed writing the blessing and speaking it over the marriage of my daughter Kait and her new husband Nick Jewell and I thought I would share it here as well for those who missed the wedding or who may have an opportunity to one day speak a similar blessing over someone they love.

Blessing Kait & Nick, July 13 2014

"Good afternoon everyone, I'm Kait's father and I asked for an opportunity to say a blessing over their marriage today. There are many ways that we can choose to bless someone, it could be as simple as "Live long and prosper." (Vulcan greeting/salute)

And that’s a good blessing, but I’m a little more ambitious than that when it comes to my daughters and when it comes to this marriage.

I could choose to bless the marriage as the father of the bride, as a couple along with my wife Rose, the mother of the bride and of course we do give our blessing to this marriage, (whew).

But you already knew that because Nick came and asked for Kait’s hand in marriage and for our blessing and we were happy to give it.

I believe it's important to speak words of blessing over people and especially over those that we love and we love our children, we love you Kait and we love you Nick as a good man and as our future, (very short time in the future) son in law.

And I believe that there is a blessing that comes from being married and today before God and all of us as witnesses, Kait and Nick will be married. And of course we're not in a church, but God doesn't live in churches, He lives right here (inside us), and right here (all around us).

So the blessing that comes from being married is a good thing, it is, but.....it's incomplete. The full blessing available to us in our marriages is not an automatic part of being married, but instead it comes as a result of inviting God into our marriages and into our lives on a daily basis.

So Kait, as your father and Nick, as your father-in law, that is my hope and my prayer for your marriage and for your lives together. 

So now I'm going to pray and I invite you all to join with me as I invite God's blessing over this marriage.

"Love, Respect, Joy, Won't take each other for granted, Home, Children, Prosperity, Health, Unity."

Rose and I are fortunate to have two wonderful daughters and we now have a great son-in -law added to the mix. For now the immediate family consists of:
Five adults, one dog, two cats and a bunny named Basil.

It was an eventful summer, but it sure flew by fast and now the wedding pictures are in so we can enjoy re-living the adventure as we retreat indoors for the lovely Alberta winter.

Hamming it up at the shower

Barb and Rose doing the reception flowers

Making the center pieces for the reception

Knocked Down & Kicked Around

Life, as we all know, is a series of ups and downs with a few blissful periods that are great where we are happy, and periods that are difficult and painful and everything seems to go wrong.

Sometimes there aren't a lot of big problems in our lives and people are generally leaving us alone and on the other hand we also go through times of loss and pain and confusion.

I've been pretty fortunate in my life compared to many others and even the most difficult trials that I have recently gone through are pretty minor in the grand scheme of things, but all the same the last year or so and especially the last few months have been very difficult for me.

Last January I lost my job after six years as an Assistant Pastor. When things like that happen, a person is pretty vulnerable and fragile and it’s natural to ask yourself some serious questions about your life and your ministry.

You start to wonder if anything that you did while in the role that you were “let go” from had any meaning at all. You begin to question whether the whole thing was just one big mistake.

You wonder as you lay awake at night if you made a difference in any one’s life at all. Was it all just a waste of time? Did you work those years for a ridiculously low salary at about half of what you were making at your previous job, with nothing to show for it in the spiritual world as well as the physical world? Wouldn't that be sad!

Sometimes those little nagging voices start up in your head; you know the ones I mean. “You’re a stupid loser, a failure.” “You can’t get along with anyone, nothing you said or did made any difference what-so-ever! What were you thinking?”

I’m sure I’m not the only one who occasionally hears those nasty, lying voices!

With the amount of depression and suicide and generally unhappy people around, I’m guessing many people hear them when they’re at their most vulnerable, and unfortunately, those voices can be pretty convincing. For some reason they sometimes seem to outweigh the positive, encouraging voices from the real people around us.

Why do we listen to lies when people who love us are telling us the opposite?

I wish I knew.

So I've had my ups and downs over the past few months and I've been very fortunate to have so many wonderful, caring supportive people around me, if you are one of those people, THANK YOU!

As it happens, a week ago Rose (my wife) and I went to see some friends from Master’s Commission (a Christian discipleship school) at a Saturday night service and seeing all those excited, amazing young people worshiping God, got me thinking about some of the wonderful times that Rose and I had with M/C over the years.

It made me sad to think that when they visit Edmonton they don’t go to the church anymore that I was then a part of. So many good things happened through that relationship and the people there will miss out on being a part of that. The good news is that they have forged a new relationship with a different church and new people will get to know them and be blessed through that relationship.

The evening I am writing about was one of those moments when I started to question the meaning of my life and the time I had spent in that church. It was precisely then, that God spoke to me for the first time in a long time and it was an amazing blessing. He started to bring to my mind things that had happened that we had been a part of over the 21 years that I had spent attending and working there.

Faces flashed before my eyes, special events and different ministries, words spoken and prayers answered and lives changed and he gave me a sort of list and I’m going to lay that list out for you here (at the risk of appearing boastful). 

Trust me, I have no reason to boast, if I've been part of anything good in my life it's because I've either been led into it by God or pushed into it by my wife! 

But on this occasion I believe He wanted me to remember and He seemed to want me to also share with you some of those things that have happened over the years that have real meaning, not just here in the physical world but also for eternity in the spiritual world.

Most of these things have happened in the last 10-12 years (I’m a slow starter) as someone once told me, “You’re not a first respond-er” and it’s absolutely true.

Our faith journey was kind of a back burner one for the first few years until we became friends with a couple in the church who’s strong faith, leadership ability and heart for people led us into new things, God used them to draw us out and help us to see what our own role was.

In 2002 Rose went on a mission trip to El Salvador and I went the following year on a trip to build a church in a little village where the child scholarship program was centered.

We were already sponsors of several kids and I was able to meet one of the little girls while I was there, surprisingly I got very emotional seeing her in person and over the years since then Rose and I have personally sponsored anywhere from 2-10 kids every year since 2002.

While working at the church, one of my responsibilities was administering the scholarship project from the Canadian side and I was happy to see it steadily grow over the years. There are many generous people choosing to change the lives of kids and their families through education, some of those kids even continued on to high school and university.

Next came our involvement in the Alpha Course, an introduction to Christianity course that ran evenings over 11 weeks and includes a weekend “away”.

We both took to it right away and it was a joy to see people come to faith through the course time after time. At first I was a table host, (who, me?) leading the discussion but after a couple of years I found myself, along with Rose, leading the entire venture. “I’m the director but you’re just the course administrator” we would kid each other.

Since then we've led the course something like 20 times with somewhere between 600 and 700 people taking the course and with dozens of people coming to faith and giving their lives to Jesus. Others, just like us, became table hosts and shared their faith around those Alpha tables, seeing their own lives change as they gave their time and energy to bless others.

Over the years I made plenty of mistakes, letting people volunteer to be a part of the course when I knew they weren't suited for it (it’s hard to say no!) and actually having to fire someone who just simply didn't get it. Well to be honest, it was a joint decision but Rose dropped the axe.

My big mouth got me into trouble a few times of course, saying things I shouldn't have or not knowing what to say when I should have spoken, but all in all, the courses went well and many lives were changed for the better.

Rose and I had a close connection with Moose Lake Gospel Camp over the years, going to many “work bees” and painting just about anything that didn't move out of the way. One summer we renovated “the boy’s dorm” rebuilding the wall that had a bunch of holes in it, and building shelves for storage and of course painting. We adopted a cabin, fixing it up with a fridge and table and a few amenities from home. They were good years and the camp had a profound impact on our own kids and Rose’s sister’s kids who came out to family camp with us many times.

For the past 11 years we've been involved in “connection groups” at the church, leading and/or hosting the groups in our home many times. Usually we would alternate hosting a group with leading the Alpha course because trying to do them both at the same time was just too much; we learned that the hard way!

Over the years we've been involved with leading about 12 groups, having somewhere around 100 or so people in our home (in groups of 8-12 at a time) and also leading in the homes of others.

Working at the church and being part of Alpha and small groups gave us the opportunity to visit dozens of people in hospital or at home in a crisis and Rose was always glad (or at least willing) to come along with me on many of those occasions.

Working at the church also gave me the opportunity to pray with complete strangers who would walk in off the street or who would just randomly call a church looking for help, people looking for compassion or prayer or who were simply confused about life and about God. 

Sometimes these people were obviously unbalanced, mentally ill and tormented by something, perhaps even demonized and usually those calls would somehow come to me.

I did my best to give good advice, “have you seen a doctor? Are you on any medications? I will be happy to talk to you and pray for you but……see a doctor and take your medications!” Many times I would talk to people and then refer them to a professional counselor and I still sometimes pray for particular people that I remember even now.

For many years, once a month, Rose made 20 bagged lunches at home to be delivered to the We-Care inner city ministry for the working poor and homeless people downtown. I know that those meals made a difference; they showed God’s love to people who really needed it.

There were some amazing special events or occasions over the years, I’ll never forget the Community Day we did at Evansdale where we brought the Watoto Children’s Choir in to perform in the school Gym. As the “Pastoral Intern” I had lots of time on my hands and with my connection to Evansdale School, (I was then volunteering in the Kindergarten Class Friday mornings) I was assigned with planning the whole event.

My planning chart from our Watoto Choir - Community Day

It turned out to be an amazing success and I will always remember that day fondly, seeing the unabashedly Christian choir giving their testimonies and singing about Jesus in the school gym in front of a crowd of hundreds of adults and children, many of whom were Muslim or other faiths.

The secret to getting them there was giving away several free bikes at the end of the concert, sneaky but effective (I can’t take the credit; someone else came up with that one).

Bringing Financial Peace University to the church was the brainchild of my wife Rose, talking to Kerri of M/C she heard that they had done the course in Chilliwack and when she mentioned it to me we were able to present it for the church here. It was well attended and I think understanding debt and money management helped many people, including us!

Another contribution of my wife Rose was bringing "Love and Respect" to my attention. She tried it out on me first and convinced that it is an effective marriage ministry tool, we brought it to leadership and it was decided to present it for the congregation. We really believe that God has a plan for marriages and this book/seminar presents it in an effective way. I know it has helped our own marriage and many others as well.

Over the six years that I worked there I preached about 50 times and I am very proud of the fact that I never knowingly said an untrue word from the pulpit, which is perhaps not always the case in the world of preaching. 

I guess it’s just my personality but it really rubs me the wrong way when I hear (or myself speak) poorly researched, glibly uttered, sloppily written sermons.

A Video that I made for a sermon a few years ago, it's kind of fun!

On the other hand I know that my own work was often too rigidly prepared and there was little room left for the Holy Spirit to get a word in edgewise.

If I had to characterize my idea of a good sermon, it would be "God's Truth" presented honestly, simply and without the taint of cynical manipulation.

Every second month for the past several years, Rose and I also had the privilege to deliver a sermon and to visit with the elderly at a local Extendicare residence. It was fun spending time with some really great people, even though a few of them snoozed through the preaching!

I think that my favourite time of the year was always the visit from the Master’s Commission team in May. One year when someone was away, I was put in charge of planning the weekend and I took it very seriously because I know how much they need and want to be challenged during their “outreach tour”.

Over the years that I was involved planning their time in Edmonton we sure kept them busy with some meaningful work. We took them to The Kid’s Kottage several times, The Mustard Seed Church, and on one memorable occasion, The House of Refuge, downtown. That is one very gritty, inner city ministry but the kids seemed to love it, they cleaned all day, organized the clothing and food stores and then made supper for 60-80 people, served it and did a worship service and testimony time.

Another time a missionary couple living in El Salvador mentioned on the phone to Rose that their rental house here in Edmonton was trashed and they didn't know what they were going to do about it. They needed to get it cleaned up and repaired so new renters could go in, but they couldn't afford to come home and look after it. It just so happened that Rose mentioned the situation to me, and I arranged to have the M/C team spend a full day working on the house, it’s amazing what 30 young people can accomplish in a day!

We loved hosting the M/C teams every year, billeting them in our house, seeing their presentations at church and trying to make their visit to Edmonton meaningful and rewarding, both for the team, our church family and the organizations that they helped out while they were here.

The list goes on and on; looking after the church building, (keeping the crawl space free of water was always fun) working on finances and budgets (those were some challenging times!), singing on the worship team and looking after the sound department, (unofficially of course). 

Other tasks kept me busy, such as administering the children’s ministry department, running a photo club, shoveling snow and helping with picnics and special events. Rose and I also loved coming up with ideas for the "Ladies Silent Auction"(remember the "secret of the sufrito"?) 

We also enjoyed many, many Sunday afternoon lunches out and dinners at our house with different people from church and the social aspect of ministry added a lot to our lives.

Even though our relationship with this particular church has abruptly ended, we will always have many fond memories of the people we came to know and love over the years. Thanks God for all of these fond memories and for bringing so many great people into the lives of our family!

It seems that God knew what I needed to remember about my time there and He also knows what I need to forget.

If you are still with me, I apologize for this rather long post and for what might seem to be a self-aggrandizing, prideful display on my part, but I honestly felt that it was something that I needed to articulate and share. 

If you have been part of a church for a while and you’re not involved in some kind of ministry, you’re missing out! We are all called on to be part of the ministry of the church, to be the hand of Jesus extended to the world, to show love and compassion and mercy.

I definitely needed a reminder that even when relationships sour, the work still has meaning, it isn't wasted just because “people are funny”.

The truth is we’re all a little funny and if we can’t take a little abuse for the team, we’re not very sincere in our faith.

Another thing that we all need to remember is that we can only do what we can do, after that it's up to God. 

We need to be willing to be used for His purposes. We can put ourselves out there, pray for guidance and direction and do what needs to be done, but in the end and especially when it comes to spiritual matters, it's God who makes it happen. 

Always remember to enjoy the journey and the people!

Update: Rose and I have found a new church to connect with and since we started attending we have led a home group several times, helped with the Alpha course 3 times now and met some lovely new people. Once again, we are truly blessed!

Renos With Rosie: This is Crazy!

A couple of weeks ago we took off for a ten day getaway to Hawaii, but as usual we did things just a little bit differently than perhaps I would like, or that might seem reasonable and sane.

Don't ask me how these things happen, I was just minding my own business, trying to keep out of trouble, (off of my wife's radar) and wham!

Our dream vacation to the lovely Hawaiian island of Maui was all booked, it should have been a nice relaxing week of packing and getting those last minute things looked after before our trip.

But how did we spend the week leading up to our flight early on a Saturday morning you ask?

We decided to refinish the kitchen cabinets! Crazy huh?

My lovely wife Rose had been dropping a few subtle hints about the far in the future (I assumed) upcoming project to refinish the cabinets. My early warning radar was apparently faulty though or I would have run for the hills at the first sign of trouble.

Rose had been talking about this miraculous "Transformations" kit that her friend Stacy uses when he renovates kitchens and she had actually already purchased a kit and set it out prominently on the counter for a few weeks. I think she uses the technique of slowly moving it around the house, placing it close to things that I like, a plate of cookies, my book, my microwave beany thing, so that I eventually loose my fear and don't react quite so strongly when she finally springs the trap.

It sounded reasonable, "we have all week, it's not hard, it will look soooooo good!"

I read the instructions, I watched the video, she talked it up how Stacy does it all the time and how it just transforms the whole room, what could go wrong?

What indeed?

If you've been following the Reno's with Rosie series you know that we are in the midst of a series of minor renovations around the house. Since the new year we have:

Repainted most of the house.
Scraped the old popcorn stipple off of the kitchen ceiling. 
(Popcorn and a movie)
Rebuilt an old table that has been in the family for a long time. 
(A table's tale)
Built a "Gallery Wall" for some of my photographs from Italy. 
(Creating the curator wall)
Started on re-tiling the fireplace hearth.
Removed part of the cabinets in the kitchen to open up the room.
And now, we've re-finished the kitchen cabinets. 

It's been a lot of fun and a lot of work and when I look into my crystal ball I see a lot more work on the horizon, a lot more!

Instead of telling you all about the process, (who's got that kind of time?) I will give you quick overview and post some pictures so you can see for yourself what we've been up to.

1. Empty out all of the cabinets and drawers.
2. Remove all cabinet doors, 20 doors plus 4 drawers and remove all hardware.
3. Clean and paint the interiors of all the cabinets.
4. Wash and "de-glaze" all of the cabinet doors and surfaces.
5. Prime all of the cabinet doors and surfaces.
6. Glaze all of the cabinet doors and surfaces.
7. Protector coat on all cabinet doors and surfaces, put it all together and blah, blah blah......
I'm bored writing all of this, it was a lot of work!

We worked every night all week until at least 10 or 11 o clock except Friday night, we finished in the afternoon, had some friends over that evening and finally packed after they left for the flight the next morning at 8:30 am.

We had some friends house-sit (cat sit is more like it) so of course there was all of the preparation for that as well, but we did have a pretty good time in Maui.

Everywhere we go we attract rain but on the plus side, the hills of Maui are much greener than they usually are this time of year! And, we saw lots of rainbows!

Before-during the removal of the "floating" cabinet, with the old paint colour.

2 drawers, one with base coat, one with glaze.

The old beige "distressed look" and the new, gross grey base coat.

Cabinets painted inside and waiting for the glaze and the topcoat etc.

Putting on the glaze (in my pajamas)

Finished: except for the floor and the baseboards and the.......

Nothing to it! Next project is probably the tile floor, I can't wait for that, NOT!
But who knows, maybe I won't have to do it if I keep my wits about me or maybe I'll find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, here's hoping.

Rainbow over Lahaina, Maui.

Click this link if you want to experience all of the fun and excitement of Cabinet "Transformations" for yourself.
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Update: No, I didn't manage to avoid tiling the floor, but the good news is that I think it turned out pretty good. Check it out below.

The Value of Courage

Recently I have been thinking a lot about the value of courage. I think as a society and a culture we do value courage to some extent but I also wonder if part of that is just idealism. Perhaps we believe that we aught to value courage, that courage is admirable, that courage should be encouraged and rewarded in some way.

In the spring of 1989 after hundreds, perhaps thousands of protesters were killed by government forces in Tiananmen Square, Beijing, the world watched in fascination as one man on his own confronted what seemed like the entire Chinese military machine .

I love the fact that this lone man is carrying shopping bags in both hands as he steps out in front of a long line of tanks and stops them cold.

He wasn't armed, except possibly with a bag of rice and whatever else he had picked up at the grocery store, but he saw those tanks designed for war rumbling through the streets of his city and he knew it was wrong and so he stepped off the curb and did something about it.

To a tank, one person is not an obstacle, or even a speed bump, and it could have ended quite differently, but the tanks stopped and the world watched and took heart from the outrageous courage of one man who dared to oppose the powerful.

It was a small thing really.

The tanks stopped, but after a few minutes some people pulled the man away and the tanks moved forward again as though nothing had happened and the man literally disappeared from history. 

To this day his identity and fate remain unknown and perhaps it's better that way. The "tank man" could have been any one of us on any given day, when we've "had enough" or when we just happen to be the one person in a position to stand up and make a difference.

Practically, it was a small thing and lasted only for a few minutes, but as a focal point and rallying cry after the massacre of the day before, it brought the world to the edge of their seats and taught the value of courage to a whole new generation.

It should not be lost on us that the obedience that is so ingrained in military forces and that those in power, whatever their industry or level or political stripe value so highly, prevented the simple expedient of the next tank in line simply driving around the first stopped tank. 

Obedience has it's place. The chain of command has it's place. No-one wants chaos.

But the problem seems to be that courage often leads to conflict, it often makes it uncomfortable not only for the courageous but especially for those they oppose. 

Usually it is those who have the power and have either forgotten their responsibilities or just become corrupted by that same power who the courageous must oppose and often there are unfortunate consequences when the powerful react. 

When we have the power and are in the wrong and we know it, or we are simply in love with power, prestige or position, we are likely to react with anger, fear, greed, and a desire to shut down any opposition before it threatens us. When this happens we don't care about what is right and if we still do, we are very good at convincing ourselves that our position, however wrong, is actually the right one.

I admire courage. Lately I have seen firsthand the courageous opposing the powerful and it's the courageous person who sees wrong being done and opposes it, who I admire. 

It's easy to go along with the crowd, to get swept away with "group think" and to convince ourselves that we are in the right, but it takes genuine courage to step away from the "consensus" and think for ourselves. 

When all eyes are on us, whether it's just the eyes of a room full of people or the eyes of the whole world, the temptation, the pressure, is to say, "never mind" and take our bags of groceries and go home, having done nothing and having to live with that. 

And that is a tragedy.

Watch any cartoon or read any comic book or look at actual human history for that matter and you will see that except for how courage can be exploited by them, villains always value obedience over courage. It seems that those in the wrong see courage as a threat because courage combined with clear thinking will inevitably lead to confrontation.

If someone sees that wrong is being done or is being contemplated and they understand that they not only can but should intervene and they have courage, they will act. 

The alternative is unthinkable.

"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing." Edmund Burke